Practically everyone experiences pain — betrayal, humiliation, loss, loneliness, or failure. But pain itself does not determine the direction of a person’s development. How we use it determines who we actually become.
Some people allow pain to take over. They turn their suffering into revenge and anger towards others. Everyone who crosses their path becomes a victim. Such people become evil — not because they were born that way, but because they allowed pain to take over their actions and thoughts.
Others choose a different path. They acknowledge their pain but do not allow it to control them. Instead, it becomes a force that shapes their character, determination, and desire to help others. These people transform pain into inner strength rather than destructive energy, and their actions protect others from similar suffering.
Two paths to the same pain
The path to evil
- Pain becomes fuel for anger and revenge.
- Everyone becomes an enemy, every situation an opportunity to inflict pain.
- Manipulation, violence, or contempt are used to make others feel bad.
- Each step deepens the inner darkness and takes away the opportunity to live peacefully.
The path to strength
- Pain is accepted and used as a lesson and experience.
- Anger turns into determination and courage.
- A person becomes a protector of those who cannot defend themselves.
- Every action breaks the chain of suffering and creates hope where there was darkness.
The difficult choice
When faced with pain, the question is not only “why is this happening to me?”, but “what should I do with this pain – this injustice?”
- Will you let the pain overwhelm you and become an evil person who causes pain to others?
- Or will you use it to become a stronger person and protect others?
Pain is neither good nor bad — it is a neutral force. However, pain can be used to become an evil or a strong person. Evil people turn it into destruction, while strong people turn it into protection, courage, and empathy.
Life does not allow us to remain neutral. When we experience pain, we must make a decision: to destroy or to protect. The path you choose reveals who you really are.