Love begins with deliberate blindness. Red flags (characteristics and behaviors that would not be accepted with clear understanding) are visible but ignored. Not because the person does not notice them, but because the truth interferes with feelings. What later ends the relationship is initially justified or considered insignificant.
Then comes the moment of revelation. The same flaws that we accepted at the beginning become unbearable. Nothing has changed except our perception. At this point, many give up. Not because the relationship is bad, but because the illusions about what is happening come to an end.
And then the cycle repeats itself. The relationship ends. The person returns to the beginning and looks for the same thing again – feelings, not reality. Blindness again. Red flags ignored again. Hope again that this time it will be different.
Not all relationships go through this stage. In those that do, people accept each other as they are. Not romanticized, but with a clear understanding that the other person is not a project and will not be rebuilt.
If this reality can be accepted, then the only thing that has long-term value begins – a shared life in all its aspects. Not a rush of emotions and illusions about the ideal partner, but responsibility to each other. Love as a choice, not feelings.
Most people don’t stay in relationships not because they are incapable of love, but because they are unable to endure the moment when love ceases to be comfortable.
The blindness of love is like a roller coaster – some people cannot see the absolute destruction, while others exaggerate insignificant details.