Not all women are the ideal or perfection — wanting perfection only leads to disappointment. Every woman has her strengths and limitations, so to speak, and understanding this helps to create realistic expectations for a relationship. It is important to understand that it is natural to want several qualities, but no one person can combine all of them. Trying to impose this ideal only leads to disappointment on both sides.
A woman who works full-time outside the home cannot perfectly manage all household matters. Balancing career and household responsibilities requires compromise, and she cannot be fully present in both areas at the same time. Sometimes dinner may not be served, chores may remain undone, or everyday tasks may be forgotten — not because of neglect, but because her time and energy are devoted to other things. At the same time, a woman who has devoted herself entirely to household duties may be excellent at maintaining a tidy home, but this often requires a certain degree of submissiveness. Her focus is on maintaining the home and supporting the family, which can mean dependence on her partner for major decisions or personal growth. This is not a shortcoming — it comes “as part of the package” with full dedication to home life.
Submissiveness can make life easier in many ways. A woman who feels comfortable following leadership can avoid conflict and make everyday decisions easier. However, dependence limits independence and personal growth, and it does not always suit the dynamics of all relationships. On the other hand, independent women think for themselves, express their thoughts and opinions, and do not always submit to expectations. Although this can sometimes cause tension, it also provides strength and authenticity based on mutual respect. Courageous or independent women encourage both themselves and their partners to grow, making relationships more dynamic and balanced.
Even beauty has its practical norms. Women who are attractive often invest time, energy, and money to maintain their appearance or lifestyle. This can include fashion, skin care, and physical fitness—responsibilities that go hand in hand with beauty. Although beauty is valued, it does not come without a price. Awareness of this reality helps to form a realistic view of relationships.
The simple truth: women are not perfect, and no one person can combine all the desirable qualities. You can value many qualities, but in reality, you have to compromise and choose what is most important to you. Some will prioritize independence, others will choose autonomy, obedience, or beauty — there is no universal standard. Understanding this dynamic allows you to develop more realistic expectations and healthier relationships based on respect, acceptance, and a realistic assessment of what each person can offer.