Addictions are often perceived as the use of various intoxicating substances or the repetition of harmful habits, but addictions are essentially related to interpersonal relationships. When these relationships disappear, a void is created, which is often filled with addiction. The opposite of addiction is not just giving up harmful habits. The true opposite is a sense of belonging that makes life fulfilling.
How a lack of belonging contributes to addiction
When a person lives an isolated or aimless life, they are at greater risk of becoming addicted. Here are some examples that increase this risk factor:
- Loneliness
When life is spent in isolation, a feeling of emptiness arises. Alcohol, gambling, or other addictions are a means of filling this void. However, after short-term satisfaction, loneliness returns even more strongly. - Emotional emptiness
When there is no goal that brings fulfillment, there is a feeling that something is missing. Addiction temporarily fills this void with strong emotions, but it does not solve the problem. Over time, the emptiness becomes even more pronounced. - Shame and secrecy
Addiction thrives in silence. The fear of being judged leads to hiding the problem, and this secrecy “feeds” the habit. The less opportunity there is to talk openly, the harder it is to break out of the vicious circle. - Lack of support
Without people who encourage and help, every difficulty can seem insurmountable. Addiction then becomes the only solution, as there are no other resources to give strength and motivation.
A sense of belonging helps
Relationships with other people are like a healing force. They provide a sense of security and help to change both the environment and one’s own behavior.
- Belonging
When a person feels like they belong, they’re less likely to seek comfort in addictions. Belonging gives them a sense that life is safe and that they’re part of something bigger. - Trust and security
Open relationships without judgment make it possible to talk about difficulties. They help to find solutions to problems – the opposite is running away from difficulties, straight into addiction. - Unity
By sharing experiences and supporting each other, we gain the strength to overcome difficulties. Problems no longer need to be solved with harmful habits – they become easier to solve through mutual unity. - Purpose
Relationships (including hobbies) give meaning to everyday life. When life is meaningful, i.e., has a purpose, there is practically no place for addictions in such a life.
In life, addiction and belonging are opposing forces. When a person feels isolated, lonely, and unsupported, addiction may seem like the only way to fill the inner void. On the other hand, when there is a sense of belonging – in a family, among friends, in a community, or in any environment where acceptance and support prevail -the strength to live without destructive habits emerges. These feelings not only reduce the desire to escape, but also fill everyday life with meaning and stability. Where these feelings are present, there is no room for addiction, and people are able to find healthy ways to deal with their daily challenges.